Ageism & the Job Search: Let's Rethink the Narrative

 

Let’s be honest. Every time I come across a well-meaning article about ageism, especially those that emphasize the doom-and-gloom scenario of job hunting after 45, a part of me flinches. Not because ageism doesn’t exist, it does, in subtle and not-so-subtle ways but because constantly framing age as a barrier can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The idea that once you hit 45, your professional life suddenly hinges on others’ biases is not just discouraging, it can be downright paralyzing. And what’s worse? That belief can quietly creep into your mindset, whispering, “You’re too old. You don’t belong here anymore.” But what if we flipped the script?

Let’s look at age not as a liability but as part of the natural human lifecycle. Robert N. Butler coined the term ageism to call out discrimination, not just against older adults but age-related prejudice at any stage of life. Children dismissed for being “too young to understand.” Teenagers told they “lack experience.” Young adults fighting for credibility. Seniors presumed to be “past it.”

Ageism isn’t a 45+ problem. It’s a societal blind spot. And newsflash: We’re all on the same path. We all get older.

So, instead of defaulting to “I didn’t get the job because I’m over 45”, try to dig deeper.

Sometimes, it’s not about your age at all. It could be that the role is explicitly tailored for someone with two years of experience. You bring 30. That’s not “age discrimination”, it’s a mismatch. If someone’s hiring a beginner, you’re overqualified, not outdated.

Yes, the job market can be tough. Yes, rejection stings. But instead of taking it personally, reframe it. Not every role is meant for you and that’s okay. Focus on opportunities that value the depth and range of your experience.

Here’s where your edge truly lies: Adaptability. Curiosity. Humility. Growth.

Show you’re still learning. That you embrace change. Surround yourself with people who see your worth. People who believe in continuous growth, regardless of age. Be a lifelong learner. Read. Network. Stay informed. Innovate. Reinvent.

And most of all, own your age without apology or regret.

I wrote this not as a rant, but as a reflection from someone proudly over 45, and proud of every hard-earned year behind me.

Here is a reminder of someone who continued to work until shortly before his death at the age of 100:

“You can’t help getting older, but you don’t have to get old.” George Burns

Let’s stop thinking of age as a barrier and start embracing it as a powerful asset.

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